The Power of Positive Presumption of Intent

In our daily interactions, we often make assumptions about others’ intentions: the person ahead of us in the grocery checkout line, the driver who cuts us off in traffic, or even the friend who enjoys a genre of music we just can’t understand. At first glance, it’s easy to assume their purpose in our lives is to annoy or frustrate us—but is that really true?

These assumptions, whether conscious or unconscious, shape how we approach relationships, perceive others, and even impact our emotional well-being.

A helpful question to ask is: What is the intent of the person?

If we assume negative intent—for example, the driver cut us off just to make our day worse—we immediately feel frustrated or angry. These emotions can linger, coloring our interactions with others. However, if we assume positive intent—that perhaps the driver was rushing to an emergency, with no ill will toward us—we avoid emotional upset and can continue our day with ease.

Understanding Positive Presumption of Intent

Positive presumption of intent is a mindset that encourages us to attribute positive motives to others’ actions, even when we lack full information.

Consider a five-year-old child. When the child makes a mistake, they are not trying to upset anyone; they are simply learning. We forgive them easily and move forward with love because we know their intent was not malicious.

Scholars support the value of this mindset. A study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology found that people instructed to attribute positive intentions to others reported feeling closer to them and more satisfied with their relationships.

Renowned researcher Brené Brown, known for her work on vulnerability and connection, emphasizes the importance of positive presumption of intent in fostering strong relationships. Brown argues that by practicing empathy and compassion and seeking to understand others’ perspectives, we create opportunities for genuine connection and a more peaceful world.

A Simple Shift with Profound Effects

Next time you feel frustration or anger toward someone’s actions, remember the five-year-old child. Step back and choose to assume positive intent. This small, conscious adjustment in thinking can transform how you perceive the world, enrich your relationships, and bring greater peace into your life.